“Stop playing the victim card.”
“Stop wallowing in self-pity.”
“Stop being so victimy.”
“You’re stuck in a victim narrative.”
“You’re not a victim. You’re a survivor.”
Chances are you’ve heard at least one of these statements before. Maybe you’ve even said one of them to someone else. These kinds of statements are pervasive in the media, religion, the mental health system, workplaces, and families. They are indicative of our culture’s general attitude toward victimhood: being a victim is one of the worst things a person can be.